About Allsorts

• One-to-one Sessions with a Youth Support Worker
• Annual Residentials
  
• Off-Site Activities
  
• Youth Rep Opportunities
  
• Parents & Carers Service
  

How long has Allsorts been around?
‍Allsorts Youth Project was co-founded by Jess Wood and James Newton in 1999. To learn more about how Allsorts has developed over the years, you can visit the ‘Our Journey’ page.

Who works at Allsorts Youth Project?
‍All of our staff, trustees and volunteers are LGBT+, parents of LGBT+ children and/or LGBT+ allies from the wider community with a particular skill or expertise that benefits the project. Importantly, everyone that works or volunteers with our children and young people undergoes a Police check (DBS), receives regular training, including safeguarding training, and follows our safeguarding procedures at all times.

Is Allsorts a mental health service and do you offer counselling?
‍Allsorts Youth Project is not a mental health service and we do not offer counselling but we do provide short-term one-to-one support sessions, where Youth Support Workers will work with you using a support plan to help you to identify what you need support with to reach your goals. Your support plan will be reviewed at each session and we will work with you to help you reach your goals.

We always encourage young people to speak to their GP, and access mainstream mental health services, such as CAMHS (under 18s) or adult mental health services (18+), if they are experiencing emotional distress. For more information visit our one-to-one support page.

Allsorts Youth Project is not a crisis service, but if you are a young person and you find yourself in crisis, please visit our help & support page.

If you are a young person and have any questions that have not been answered here, you can get in touch with us at youth@allsortsyouth.org.uk, and a member of our team will get back to you as soon as possible.

About being LGBT+

What does LGBT+ mean?
‍LGBT+ is an initialism of lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans, and the ‘+’ (plus) covers the many other ways people might use to refer to their sexual orientation and/or gender identity. There are many variations of this initialism you may have heard of, such as LGBTQIA+.

Allsorts Youth Project uses ‘LGBT+ and exploring’ as it reflects the language used by the children, young people and families that are a part of our service. Many of the young people coming to Allsorts don’t identify with a specific word to describe their sexual orientation and/or gender identity because they haven’t found the right “fit” yet, or are simply exploring. If a young person is in that position, we believe it’s important for them to have access to a supportive space like Allsorts to hear about other people’s experiences, have yours heard, and feel free to explore your identity.

Of course, not everyone that is part of our diverse community uses language to describe their identity that features in the LGBT+ initialism, but we are absolutely inclusive of those identities. It is also important to know that many terms are commonly used as umbrella terms. For example, some people who are genderfluid, bi-gender or genderflux might also identify with non-binary as an umbrella term for someone whose gender is neither male/man/boy or female/woman/girl.

Some people may choose not to use any particular label for their identity at all - there is no expectation to use labels here at Allsorts and we always follow the lead of our service users.

For young people that are heterosexual/straight and cisgender (meaning they are not lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, exploring or any other associated identity), you can find lots of youth groups, clubs and activities happening in Sussex that are inclusive of young people regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity.

I’m not sure if I am LGBT+, but am starting to understand or realise I might be, can I still come to Allsorts?
‍Yes, absolutely! We welcome children and young people that might be exploring or developing an understanding of their sexual orientation and/or gender and think maybe they are LGBT+ but are not yet sure or certain.

This process of exploring sexual orientation and gender identity is common, healthy and typical for many young people, but sometimes it can be challenging. Allsorts supports young people to explore any challenges as well as facilitating service users to make connections with peers that they can relate to.

Many of our young people face difficulties that are not directly linked with their LGBT+ identity, but we do our best to support them with these issues too and refer young people to specialist services (such as drug and alcohol, sexual health, mental health, or housing support services) when required.

We want all children and young people to feel safe and able to express themselves in our spaces and beyond, no matter the range of challenges that life may bring.

I have heard lots of new and different ways that people describe their sexual orientation and gender identity - why is that?
‍Diversity and variance in gender identity and sexual orientation have existed in history and across the world for thousands of years.

LGBT+ identities are not a trend and are nothing new, even if the language and concepts we use to describe and understand LGBT+ identities has developed over time. For more information on LGBT+ experiences across history, please follow the links below to LGBT+ History month education packs made by our friends at The Proud Trust,

Manchester:2017 Citizenship, PSHE and Law (page 10)

I don’t follow gender stereotypes. Does this mean that I am LGBT+?
‍No. Gender stereotypes are traditional norms of looking or behaving in a way that is associated with being male or female and are not linked to sexual orientation or gender identity. Most people break gender stereotypes in some way.

At Allsorts, we celebrate diversity and individuality without making assumptions about whether someone is LGBT+. After all, everyone is impacted by gender stereotypes no matter if they are LGBT+ or not.

Allsorts’ community reflects the many ways children, young people and adults feel comfortable to express themselves. Gender identity, gender expression, sex and sexual orientation all exist on a spectrum, and every person’s experience of gender and/or sexual orientation will vary.

What is a pronoun and why are they important?
‍A pronoun is a word in a sentence that takes the place of a noun. Examples of a pronoun are ‘he’, ‘she’ or ‘they’.

Since pronouns are commonly understood to be gendered, they can be especially important to trans and non-binary people. It can be very uncomfortable to be referred to by the wrong pronoun and can be experienced as a challenge to a person’s gender identity, no matter if they are trans or not.

If you accidentally use the wrong pronoun for someone, correcting yourself and moving on with the conversation is generally the best thing to do - mistakes can happen! If you aren’t sure what pronoun to use for someone, it’s okay to ask, but think about whether you should ask in private or not. If in doubt, use their name until you can check with the person what language is best for you to use.

I am trans and want to medically transition. Can you help?
‍Our role is to support, listen to and connect children and young people, regardless of what stage they have reached in exploring their identity. We connect them with LGBT+ peers in youth groups, provide a professional listening ear through one-to-one support with Youth Support Workers and support their development as young people by providing fun, educational and inspiring workshops and activities.

Allsorts if not part of a referral pathway for medical transition. It is not our role as an organisation to administer or encourage any kind of social or medical transition, assessment, treatment, decision making or course of action regarding care.

Does being LGBT+ mean that I can’t practice my faith?
‍Every person’s relationship with their faith and beliefs is their own and members of the Allsorts community represent many different viewpoints and celebrating this diversity is a core value of our service.

If you are interested in learning more from our young people and community regarding faith, please take a look at our Allsorts of Faith resource.

Stonewall has also produced a guide for tackling homophobia in faith schools which you can view here.

Does being LGBT+ mean that I can’t have a family?
‍No. Families come in all shapes and sizes and the parent/s might be LGBT+ or straight and cisgender. There are many different ways to have a family as an LGBT+ person which might include fostering, adoption or IVF. Not only that, but there are lots of single parents and foster carers who choose to have a child by themselves.

There are lots of ways you could have a family if that is something you choose to do.

I am thinking of coming out as LGBT+, but not quite sure how to do this, can you help?
‍Yes we can. Our one-to-one support is a great place to talk through any thoughts and feelings you have about coming out. We have also produced a great resource all about coming out and you can find that on our resources page.

What support do you offer schools and colleges?
‍Allsorts delivers workshops for students and staff, addressing issues particular to the setting wherever possible. We also provide support and information on best practice to schools and colleges over the phone and via email if we aren’t able to get to them in person.

Our training and workshops come with a fee, but any profits go right back into our service, helping us to continue our vital work. Remember that supporting LGBT+ students supports all students.

For more information about what we can offer, visit our Training & Education page or get in touch with us via our contact page. To view and download our LGBT inclusion resources, visit our Toolkits, Booklets and Guides page.

I have experienced LGBTphobic harassment, bullying or incidents. Can you help?
‍If you would like to talk to Allsorts about bullying you may be experiencing, we are here to listen and support in one-to-one support sessions. We can help you talk to those concerned (school, work, university etc) as well as support you with reporting if needed. We will also keep you connected with a community of LGBT+ young people who may have experienced similar challenges.

If you are under 26 and would like to access Allsorts Youth Project for help, please get in touch via the contact us page or you can make a referral here.

If you are 26+ (or 18+) and are looking for support, advice or guidance, you can contact one of the following organisations:

• MindOut
• The Clare Project
• LGBT Switchboard
• The Rainbow Hub

To report a crime, anyone of any age can contact Crime Stoppers or call anonymously on 0800 555 111

‍Non-Emergency Police line is 101

*If you or someone else is in immediate danger, always call 999*